Hi. My therapist from the beginning said if I ever need help or support out of therapy sessions that I should text or call. She gave me her number on a special sticker thing so I wouldn’t loose it!
However, that was a few months ago and I haven’t needed to contact her. But after last fridays meeting, I feel so so bad. I feel like I need to reach out and tell her I’m thinking about not continuing because of how bad it has made me feel and how it is interfering with my day to day life now.
Should I text her? I don’t want to cross the boundary, but I know she originally said I could… I’m just not sure how to proceed? I wouldn’t call because I don’t think I would get any words out! But I have written a long text saying what I truly feel. She’s been saying she needs me to ‘open my emotional door’ because it is so tightly closed! This text is VERY VERY open.
Don’t know if a text is crossing the line? or strange? I don’t want to invade her privacy by texting.
Advice would be amazing, Thank you! (From London)
A: I believe it takes a great deal of courage to express these types of feeling to your therapist, and I appreciate consideration of the therapist’s boundaries. If she said it was okay to text, then I would text a brief message saying that you had difficulty with the last session and it is still bothering you. Let her know that you would be willing to write it all out, but that it would be lengthy, and that a phone call might be difficult. Be sure to let her know that you are feeling bad enough that you have considered discontinuing therapy. As an EMDR therapist, I am certain she will understand.
By asking her to help you in the communication process you have already done something that has therapeutic value — while not expressing so much that it may feel like a boundary issue.
Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
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