Thursday, 3 October 2019

The Impact of the Digital Age on Suicide Prevention

According to a 2018 report, the average American now spends nearly 24 hours a week online, which is not very surprising considering we are almost always in reach of a computer, phone, or tablet. Immediate access to the internet has brought both positive and negative impacts. As a clinician, for example, I’ve observed individuals, especially those in younger populations, become more susceptible to comparing their lives to the “highlight reels” of other individuals, often diminishing their self-esteem in the process. Similarly, access to social media has complicated society’s effort to root out and end bullying. Now, our children will often suffer bullying in the shadows and privacy of online messaging. And we know that extended time spent on social media can be linked to the increased number of suicide risk factors an individual may experience including isolation and lack of true social support, etc.

Media plays a growing role in this, especially as media agencies are now sharing their messages across all digital platforms. The way in which the media portrays individuals struggling with mental health issues matters. The media’s coverage of suicidal behaviors can influence people at risk in a negative manner by inadvertently contributing to possible copycat behavior. On the other end of the spectrum, it can assist in breaking stigmas and encouraging individuals and loved ones to get the help they need. We’ve seen increased conversations about this impact with the release of movies and television shows, including Netflix’s 13 Reasons Why which sparked discussion throughout the mental health industry. 

The digital space has also had a positive impact on the mental health space. We have learned that people sometimes feel inclined to share their suicidal risk behaviors online, in chat rooms and on social media, where they can find support. Organizations such as the Suicide Prevention Lifeline have developed chat features on their websites to offer an additional way for individuals suffering with suicidal behaviors to contact them 24 hours a day. 

We’ve also seen an increase in telemental health options, which have been a game-changer in terms of accessibility to mental health care. We’ve seen telemental healthcare options become very successful in a few key areas including rural communities who have fewer options in terms of mental healthcare and business professionals with demanding careers. There are many added benefits to this style of mental health care. Those using telemental care are able to access help anywhere at any time and incur lower costs. 

There are many benefits to the addition of digital technology in the health care field, with the biggest being the increased accessibility to various types of care. Being able to offer patients evidence-based care and support when and where they want it is vital. We must continue to embrace these digital technology solutions moving forward, as these developments are helping to reduce stigma and remove barriers to care. 

It is also important that everyone, not just healthcare providers, understand symptoms and treatments of mental illness. By being aware, individuals can play a crucial role in identifying when someone else is showing signs and may be asking for help. If you’re unsure of what these signs are, you can find trusted resources online.



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Podcast: Misinformation Crusader – Writing About Mental Illness

On today’s show, Gabe talks with Dr. Jessi Gold, a self-described misinformation crusader.  In addition to being a practicing psychiatrist, Dr. Gold’s career has focused on writing about mental health and mental illness for a lay audience.

Join us as Gabe and Dr. Jessi talk about common sources of psychiatric misinformation, the perils of the supplement industry, how mental health and mental illness are often portrayed incorrectly in the popular media, and why she decided to pursue a very specific type of writing career.

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Guest information for ‘Dr. Jessi’ Podcast Episode

Jessica (“Jessi”) Gold, M.D., M.S., is an Assistant Professor in the Department of Psychiatry at Washington University in St Louis School of Medicine, where she works at the Habif Health and Wellness Center, seeing undergraduate and graduate students as patients. She is a graduate of the University of Pennsylvania (B.A. and M.S. in Anthropology) and the Yale School of Medicine (M.D.). She completed her residency training in Adult Psychiatry at Stanford University where she served as chief resident from 2017-2018. 

Dr. Gold is particularly interested in college mental health, women’s mental health and gender equity, physician wellness, medical education, and the overlap between popular media, stigma, and psychiatry. While she has published frequently in the more “traditional” methods of research papers and academic publications, she has also enjoyed teaching about mental health topics and decreasing stigma through writing for popular press outlets. She has been featured in, among others, Self, InStyle, Glamour, and the HuffPost. She can be found on twitter at @drjessigold and at drjessigold.com.

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Gabe Howard is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations, available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from Gabe Howard. To learn more, please visit his website, gabehoward.com.

Computer Generated Transcript for ‘Dr. Jessi’ Episode

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Announcer: Welcome to the Psych Central Podcast, where each episode features guest experts discussing psychology and mental health in everyday plain language. Here’s your host, Gabe Howard.

Gabe Howard: Welcome to this week’s episode of the Psych Central Podcast and calling into the show today, we have Dr. Jessica Gold. Jessi is an assistant professor in the Department of Psychiatry at Washington University in St. Louis School of Medicine. Jessi, welcome to the show.

Dr. Jessi Gold: Thank you so much for having me.

Gabe Howard: Dr. Gold is particularly interested in college mental health, women’s mental health, and gender equity. She’s also interested in physician wellness, medical education, and the overlap between popular media, stigma, and psychiatry. You’re really writing about a lot of like concepts as it relates to mental health in our society.

Dr. Jessi Gold: Yes, all of the topics that I think people bring into their doctors’ offices or to their psychiatrist or their psychologists. Those are the things that I’m interested in.

Gabe Howard: So let’s kind of start here for a moment, you are a practicing psychiatrist, correct?

Dr. Jessi Gold: Correct, I see patients almost all of my time.

Gabe Howard: So that means when you say these are the things that people are bringing into the psychiatrist’s office, these are the things that people are bringing into your office.

Dr. Jessi Gold: Absolutely. These are the things that we talk about all the time or the things that I feel like I end up repeating a lot or the things that I hear other people talking about, what their experiences with patients or on social media topics that are coming up in the news or topics that are coming up in movies or television.

Gabe Howard: How does something happening in pop culture or the news impact your ability to help patients or the patient’s ability to connect with you?

Dr. Jessi Gold: There are lots of ways, actually. So I would say the one way would be that if what they heard on the news would make them stigmatize mental health in some way or think that something was wrong with them because they had mental illness. That might mean that they don’t get help when they need it. That might mean that they avoid going to get help until they’re really quite sick and they’re not coming in the preventive stage of care. And we often say when you’re actually suicidal or when you’re not getting up out of bed or you’re not eating, you’re not sleeping, those sorts of things. If you’re waiting till then, sometimes there are reasons that that’s the case. But if it’s because you read something on the news that told you you don’t actually have a problem or made you feel like you should be ashamed to have that problem, it very well could impact your care, your day to day, that’s one way. Another way would be if they said something on the news about a particular treatment or a particular way of dealing with a problem. And sometimes those are evidence based.

Dr. Jessi Gold: And that’s great. And sometimes they’re not. And I think that people will come in to their doctors’ offices or talk to their friends or family or talk to someone on social media or offline about these kinds of treatments that are mentioned. And I think that’s another way it can impact your day-to-day practice. So you should know about the things that people are talking about and be able to comment on them, be able to say that that isn’t true or won’t work because of an actual reason. I don’t really see that as a patient’s fault or a family member’s fault. I think that if we’re advertising directly to patients, as some pharmaceutical companies do, or we’re talking about treatments in the news or wellness products in the news, that’s what people are reading and seeing. So you can’t really fault them for having a comment or having a feeling about what they see. It’s my job to be able to say this is not true because or this won’t help you because or this will help you because. And sometimes they have really great ideas, frankly.

Gabe Howard: That’s actually a really great point. One of the things that you said is that sometimes they come in with the correct information. They have information that they learned from a credible source. So I think we can all understand how empowering that can be and how it can help your job. What about when they come in with the, you know, the get-well-quick scheme, as I like to call them, when they, you know, I watched a YouTube video and it said that if I do lavender oil on the back of my ear, it will cure my voices. And I don’t understand why you’re hiding this from me. How do you handle that?

Dr. Jessi Gold: It’s really hard, you know, because I think if you read things and you see things, it’s easy to believe them. And if you want to believe something, because you’ve had a lot of things wrong with you and nobody’s able to tell you what’s wrong with you, which happens a lot with chronic pain, for example, or you don’t necessarily like the diagnosis that you’ve been given or you think it means something you don’t want it to mean. All of these are vulnerabilities that are very easily preyed upon by these kind of products or the wellness industry. And basically what happens in those kind of conversations is you just have to level with people and try to give them the best information that you have and try to make a case for why you don’t think it’s the best thing for them and why you think something else would be. It doesn’t always work. And I definitely think that there are times where it’s kind of frustrating for both parties. You know, a lot of supplements, for example, do have negative impacts on other pharmaceuticals you could be taking or might have side effects that interfere with mental health in general or could have side effects of something like suicidality.

Dr. Jessi Gold: And so understanding those are really important to be able to convey to the patient. But also, if you still stay on them and I’m trying to prescribe a medication, I think it can be pretty hard as a prescriber to do that ethically and feel good about someone staying on something that, you know, is really bad for them. The problem with a lot of these things is we don’t actually know what’s good or bad about them. Most of the time it’s kind of neutral and you’re just spending a lot of money on something that’s not doing anything. And I think that’s a whole other conversation. But when you have those conversations with people, again, it’s just sort of like this is what we know. This is what we don’t know. I’m trying the best I can to help you. And this is what I think would work. And I hear why you think this should work or why you read that this could work. And I’ll read more about that to see what there is about that if I don’t know anything about it. But for now, this is my recommendation.

Gabe Howard: It’s interesting what you said there, and I agree with you, I don’t want to fall down the rabbit hole on this one, but you said they’re spending a lot of money on these supplements or alternative treatments. And that’s one of the things that I hear out there a lot. We can’t trust the pharmaceutical companies because they’re just in it for the money. And yet the supplement business, the alternative medical business is a multi-billion dollar industry. And yet somehow it’s managed to kind of create this idea that, oh, no, they’re in it to help you. Unlike regulated industries. And I’m sure we could do a whole show on that. But how does it make you feel knowing that they’re dissing a multi-billion dollar industry in favor of another multi-billion dollar industry and they’re sitting in front of you and you seem to have the least amount of clout in the room sometimes?

Dr. Jessi Gold: Frustrated is the first word that comes to my mind. I think that there are plenty of problems with the pharmaceutical industry. Don’t get me wrong. And I think that one of the things that’s not a problem is that they do evidence-based studies. Sure, like some of the studies are probably skewed and they are presenting a lot of the better evidence, but they have to go through FDA approval. And a lot of these supplements, a lot of the things that you could buy, they have no regulation process. And so not only are they costing money, we can’t even say that. Like if I picked this pill out of this bottle, it will be the exact same as that same pill in a different bottle. They’re just not regulated. Whereas if you took any of your daily medication, they should all have the exact same dose of that medication in it. Right? That’s how we regulate it. So I think that there obviously are problems with, as they call it, Big Pharma. But there are plenty of problems with the wellness industry. And I think I sit in this intersection where both prey on my patients. And so I’m well aware of those and I see the direct-to-consumer marketing of Big Pharma. But then I also see celebrities talking about wellness products that cure your mental health or help with anxiety. And I just get frustrated. I wish that there was a better way to help people or help people see that there are great things about medication, even if maybe the way that it gets to you feels frustrating.

Gabe Howard: I think that everything that you said was fair, that just because something has a problem doesn’t mean that you have to throw all of it away. I always use the example that, you know, look, as much as I love my wife, she’s not perfect. She’s my wife. I picked her from all of my options. And even I can admit as much as I love her, that she has her flaws. But overall, she’s a great wife. But we look at corporations, at industry, at companies, and we somehow are only willing to accept perfection. We don’t have this attitude in other areas, but we sort of have it in our mental health care and probably our medical care. This just happens to be a mental health show. Can you kind of speak on that for a moment? Because there’s nothing that’s perfect, including if we’re being honest, psychiatrists.

Dr. Jessi Gold: I’m absolutely not perfect. I think that that’s also a fault of sort of medicine and how we train and how medicine has been perceived throughout history. I think it’s also why so many medical providers that have medical illnesses or mental illnesses have trouble admitting them. I think if we’re supposed to be perfect, how can we also have depression or how can we also be burned out? Right? I mean, there’s a high rate of mental illness in physicians for a reason. And we don’t get treatment. Physicians in general tend to treat themselves instead of going to get help. So I think it has a ton of downstream effects. I think it’s humble and true to say you don’t know and you don’t know. And there are lots of things we don’t know. I also think it’s important to say what things we do know. And when you’re explaining like, let’s say a medication to someone, being able to really clearly state, like what evidence we do have and what we know are some of the side effects and what we don’t know is also relevant. And I think that saying you don’t know feels uncomfortable and might even feel uncomfortable to be heard by a patient when a doctor says it. But it’s true a lot of the time. We’re working on a lot of this stuff. A lot of things change at a pace that’s much quicker than research and definitely much quicker than FDA approval of any sort of medication or new treatment. So I think the idea of perfection definitely has effects on not just the doctor-patient relationship, but I think on physicians and other health providers themselves.

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Gabe Howard: We are back talking with psychiatrist and popular media writer, Dr. Jessica Gold. Your writing has been featured in SELF, InStyle, Glamour, The Huffington Post, all kinds of places online. Let’s pick on your fellow psychiatrist for a moment. Why are you drawn to this type of public outreach in a way that your colleagues are not?

Dr. Jessi Gold: That’s a really good question. I think that when I was in training, it wasn’t necessarily frowned upon, but I wouldn’t say was encouraged to do this sort of writing. You know, if you get trained in an academic medical center, writing research papers, writing for our own peers is very valued. And so you spend a lot of time doing that. So we spend a lot of time doing that, and it’s encouraged and supported, there’s a lot less encouragement on the popular press side of writing. We also don’t have as much training on it. Nobody’s really teaching us how to write. One reason why other providers are not doing it is they might not think they’re a good writer or they might not think that that’s something they know how to do. Because academic writing is very, very different than popular press writing. It’s sort of like when you go to the doctor and they’re explaining things and they’re only using big jargon words. And you’re really confused versus how I’m talking to you now. They’re very different communication styles. And then I think for psychiatrists in particular, we’ve always been taught that we’re not supposed to be kind of taking up space. So there’s this blank slate argument. Psychiatry and psychology started with psychoanalysts where basically we are there to project you on to you and not really project our own opinions and feelings into the room. And if we are on TV or writing for the popular press or talking on a podcast, we’re talking as ourselves. And it gives a lot of information about me. I try not to give all the information about me for the same reason. But I think you still learn a lot about my opinions and my thoughts and how I view things. And it’s a lot more vulnerable that way. And patients definitely read it. So I think it definitely changes the dynamic in a physician-patient relationship or therapist-patient relationship. If you’re doing a lot of these sorts of things, that is maybe a particular reason my psychiatrist might feel less excited about it.

Gabe Howard: As somebody who lives with bipolar disorder, I’m really excited to see somebody in your position writing about the reality of it, because I think that there is a lot of disconnect between patients and doctors. And I really do feel that your articles help close that gap. You know, one of the… the stigma surrounding psychiatry is that psychiatrists are as crazy as their patients. And that’s sort of a trope. You see it in movies, you see it on television, but it isn’t like that. And how does society perceiving all psychiatrists as, you know, just as mentally ill as their patients prevent people from getting treatment?

Dr. Jessi Gold: I hope that that’s something that’s going away with time. I think that a lot of the images on TV and movies are made to be entertainment and not based in truth. I’m hoping also that will shift over time as people realize that those portrayals actually do have effects in what people are doing and how people are getting care, how people are perceiving physicians. There are not that many psychiatrists or mental health providers on TV and they tend to come in and very random occasions to do like couples therapy or just kind of scoot in or there’s always like one of the tropes that comes up a lot is they sleep with their patients, which is, you know, against all of our ethical boundaries and guidelines in so many ways. So I think that it’s a gross misperception. However, we are human. Right? And so one in four people have mental illness. So there are a lot of psychiatrists. Somebody is going to have mental illness. I also think we’re just fascinated innately by the human condition. So we went into a field where our job is to listen and care and know what’s going on in your life and your life matters, that you’re not just a symptom. And I think being innately interested in that might mean that we’re also curious about ourselves. But we are all human and most humans do have struggles.

Gabe Howard: I love your general attitude of, you know, look, I don’t know everything, but, hey, at least I’m willing to talk about it and engage people. I love your vibe so much.

Dr. Jessi Gold: Thank you.

Gabe Howard: Sometimes doctors believe that they know everything. And I think that’s where people get in trouble. And I don’t know if it’s extra true in the mental health space, but I talked to a lot of people, a lot of mental health patients that are just like I told my doctor that this was unacceptable. And my doctor said, well, you’re either gonna kill yourself or you’re gonna do what I say. And I’m like, oh, my God, that’s so horrible. You know, talk about like lack of bedside manner. Right? It’s scary. When we talk about your writing, Jessi. Who are you considering your target audience?

Dr. Jessi Gold: I would like to say every one. I particularly pick places that I am aiming to talk to my patients, my patients’ families, the general population that have these misconceptions about mental health. I don’t love writing for a medical audience. I do research because that’s part of my job. I have written for psychiatric publications where it comes up, but I really do love aiming to write for just kind of everyone. And that means that my pieces have gotten into a lot of what we would call, like traditionally women’s magazines. And I don’t know if that’s just because of who I know or how I’ve gotten connected. But it’s not that I’m meaning to exclude men by any means, because men obviously also have mental health problems and have rates of mental illness at high rates as well. But I really hope that everyone reads the kinds of stuff that I’m writing. And a lot of what I’m writing is inspired by things that I’m talking about with patients and things that come up. And so if they’re coming up with me, they’re probably coming up with other people. So I’m hoping that that makes it exciting for people to read or they find it useful. I wrote a piece about questions that you should ask your therapist, and I thought that that would be something that someone could read before they went to a therapist and they could carry it with them to the therapist or think about these things before. And they’re just like things that maybe you hadn’t thought about before. Like, would you want to say hi to your therapist if you saw them in the street? That kind of thing. And I think they’re just questions that come up with me, and I hope other people are excited and interested in them. And so I write them.

Gabe Howard: Jessi, we’re nearing the end of the show. I am also a writer, so the question that I always like to be asked whenever I give an interview is what’s my favorite article? So I pose to you: What is your favorite piece? What is your favorite article that you have ever written?

Dr. Jessi Gold: It’s a very hard question for me, actually, because I like different things for different reasons. I think more recently, one of the pieces I’m really excited that I was able to write is I wrote this piece for InStyle about what it means to “check in” for mental health. I think that comes up a lot specifically with celebrities. And it was inspired by Britney Spears, actually. And these headlines that weren’t really making sense about if she was in a hospital and where she was. And I got to write a piece for InStyle that really looked at what does it mean to be in a facility? What does it look like day to day? What are the different types of facilities? Because I think also when you say checking in, does that mean somebody is in an involuntary ward? Does that mean you’re in residential treatment? There’s just so many options. And I think it was really nice of the editor. I work a lot with that editor writing pieces that really take things that happen in entertainment or take things that happen in popular press and inform based on them. And that was a really fun piece to do because it got to get into like the nitty gritty, important stuff for patients. But it was grounded in something that people were reading about just as a headline and actually was inspired because she was curious and she didn’t know the answer. And I really liked that, which is like editors of these places that could be traditionally just talking about fashion being like, hey, like this comes up a lot that I don’t know what this means and I know someone who can help me know what this means and will you please write it? And I was really excited to do that. So that’s probably if I was to pick a piece right now, I’m excited about that one.

Gabe Howard: Jessi, where can our listeners find you if they want to read more and learn more about you and drop all your social media links as well.

Dr. Jessi Gold: The easiest place to find me is I’m very active on Twitter, and that for me is @DrJessiGold. I spell Jessi J E S S I. So @DrJessiGold. Gold is just like the color of the metal or whatever you think about when you think of the word gold. I love Twitter. It’s a good way of reaching out to people and connecting. It’s one of my favorite forms of advocacy. So it’s easy to find me on there. I also have a website which is just DrJessiGold.com and there you will be able to find a lot of the pieces I’ve written. There’s a link to most of them. You can always look up my name and things like SELF magazine or InStyle and find my stuff pretty quickly too.

Gabe Howard: Jessi, that is awesome. Thank you so much for being on the show, we really appreciated having you.

Dr. Jessi Gold: Thank you so much for having me.

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My Son Wants to Quit College and Become a Total Recluse

Less than a month ago my son was enrolled in a medical college. The fees for the entire course, secured by a bank guarantee, is exorbitant by Indian standards. Now after less than a month into the college, when the orientation program is still ongoing and regular classes have not yet started, he wants to quit the college. And he says that since he cannot get over the guilt of causing such a huge monetary loss, he would not be able to face anybody. Basically, just drop out and become a total recluse.

Some background- He considers himself socially inept. He was bullied in school but didn’t tell me then. He is able to make friends but what he really likes is to be popular and fit in. He avoids and hates doctor-patient role-play sessions and he is most pessimistic about continuing on such days. He says that he has never been able to fulfill his dreams. He didn’t become popular, could not become a good soccer player, couldn’t become a fast sprinter, could not build muscles. Part of the reason is that he sets unrealistic goals and then he takes failures at these attempts very hard.

He feels that the time to achieve his dreams is running out fast and he cannot tolerate the thought of doing a course he hates for 6 years. He feels that he let a better life slip out of his hands by not choosing the path to an engineering career and now feels lost and hopeless.

What I’m most worried about is how he will cope up with the feeling of guilt after quitting college. I’m also worried that his feeling of being a failure will not go away and may even worsen. Also, even at home, away from social situations he shows signs like idiopathic muscle twitching (for 3 years), frequent urination in very small quantities (for 4 years), sweaty palms. (From India)

I am sorry you are having so much difficulty with your son and that he is struggling with his decisions. It seems like he is experiencing a great deal of anxiety, and the fact that he wants to become a recluse may be a symptom of social anxiety, but there are many other possibilities and overlapping concerns. Because of this, I would, first and foremost, I would encourage your son to go to the university counseling center. Medical colleges know how stressful and difficult the course of study can be and having your son talk about his desire to leave with them would be a very good first stop. It will also help to have him talk about the potential guilt feelings he might have about the tuition payment. The universities are typically very familiar with the needs and issues with the students and they are often in the very best position to help him.

In addition, it may be important for you and him to investigate social anxiety. While I am not trying to diagnose your son in any way, many of the things you’ve mentioned point to his need to be isolated and difficulty with social situations as a type of social anxiety.

There is some excellent information here about social anxiety that you may want to consider.

At the core of my thinking about your son understanding more about social anxiety is that you mentioned the role-playing of Doctor-patient is such a huge trigger for him. This is actually a performance issue and the specifics of that can give us a clue about the social anxiety component, Your son can make friends, but this part of his education—the performance and evaluation part is actually a specifically named component of social anxiety. If he wasn’t able to make friends this would be viewed differently, but since it is so specific it can be classified another way.

This is why I am highly recommending he speak to a counselor on campus. The avoidance of a performance-based evaluation condition can become so severe it can, indeed, cause something like what your son is experiencing.

The reason I am encouraging you to help your son see a counselor is because if it turns out it is social anxiety there are very successful treatment options. This article will outline the psychotherapy, medical, and self-help options that are available
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Wednesday, 2 October 2019

My Son Wants to Quit College and Become a Total Recluse

Less than a month ago my son was enrolled in a medical college. The fees for the entire course, secured by a bank guarantee, is exorbitant by Indian standards. Now after less than a month into the college, when the orientation program is still ongoing and regular classes have not yet started, he wants to quit the college. And he says that since he cannot get over the guilt of causing such a huge monetary loss, he would not be able to face anybody. Basically, just drop out and become a total recluse.

Some background- He considers himself socially inept. He was bullied in school but didn’t tell me then. He is able to make friends but what he really likes is to be popular and fit in. He avoids and hates doctor-patient role-play sessions and he is most pessimistic about continuing on such days. He says that he has never been able to fulfill his dreams. He didn’t become popular, could not become a good soccer player, couldn’t become a fast sprinter, could not build muscles. Part of the reason is that he sets unrealistic goals and then he takes failures at these attempts very hard.

He feels that the time to achieve his dreams is running out fast and he cannot tolerate the thought of doing a course he hates for 6 years. He feels that he let a better life slip out of his hands by not choosing the path to an engineering career and now feels lost and hopeless.

What I’m most worried about is how he will cope up with the feeling of guilt after quitting college. I’m also worried that his feeling of being a failure will not go away and may even worsen. Also, even at home, away from social situations he shows signs like idiopathic muscle twitching (for 3 years), frequent urination in very small quantities (for 4 years), sweaty palms. (From India)

I am sorry you are having so much difficulty with your son and that he is struggling with his decisions. It seems like he is experiencing a great deal of anxiety, and the fact that he wants to become a recluse may be a symptom of social anxiety, but there are many other possibilities and overlapping concerns. Because of this, I would, first and foremost, I would encourage your son to go to the university counseling center. Medical colleges know how stressful and difficult the course of study can be and having your son talk about his desire to leave with them would be a very good first stop. It will also help to have him talk about the potential guilt feelings he might have about the tuition payment. The universities are typically very familiar with the needs and issues with the students and they are often in the very best position to help him.

In addition, it may be important for you and him to investigate social anxiety. While I am not trying to diagnose your son in any way, many of the things you’ve mentioned point to his need to be isolated and difficulty with social situations as a type of social anxiety.

There is some excellent information here about social anxiety that you may want to consider.

At the core of my thinking about your son understanding more about social anxiety is that you mentioned the role-playing of Doctor-patient is such a huge trigger for him. This is actually a performance issue and the specifics of that can give us a clue about the social anxiety component, Your son can make friends, but this part of his education—the performance and evaluation part is actually a specifically named component of social anxiety. If he wasn’t able to make friends this would be viewed differently, but since it is so specific it can be classified another way.

This is why I am highly recommending he speak to a counselor on campus. The avoidance of a performance-based evaluation condition can become so severe it can, indeed, cause something like what your son is experiencing.

The reason I am encouraging you to help your son see a counselor is because if it turns out it is social anxiety there are very successful treatment options. This article will outline the psychotherapy, medical, and self-help options that are available
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Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral



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10 Tips for Gauging the Quality of an Inpatient Rehab Program, from an Expert in the Field

When you’re suffering from a drug or alcohol addiction and/or another serious mental health condition, quality inpatient treatment is often critical to recovery. But finding quality inpatient treatment isn’t always easy in an industry that has at times been prone to scams. A case in point: a recent story on NPR described how some addiction treatment clinics are claiming that nutritional IV infusions (or “NAD infusions”) can cure cravings and addiction. The news is the latest in a string of reports in recent years revealing how some rehab facilities have preyed on and profited from individuals’ and families’ desperate hopes for a cure. 

How, then, do you protect yourself from scams when you’re looking for an inpatient rehab program? These 10 tips for gauging the quality of a prospective rehab provider and their inpatient programs helps to answer that question:

1. Consult a medical or clinical professional for their advice. Often a doctor or therapist will have already done much of the vetting of potential referral partners and can provide you with a referral list that you can rely on. Prospective rehab providers that appear on a list of this kind can generally be trusted. As for prospective rehab providers that do not appear on a list of this kind, consider contacting the referring doctor or therapist for their insights. If they have never heard of the provider, more research into the provider’s history, reputation, and treatment programs is an absolute must.

2. Check that the rehab provider is fully licensed and accredited by state and federal governing bodies. Accreditation by the federal Joint Commission on the Accreditation of Health Care Organization (JOINT) or The Commission on Accreditation of Rehabilitation Facilities (CARF) is crucial. So is licensure by the Drug Enforcement Administration (DEA) and Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) for Opioid Treatment Programs. (This license qualifies a facility to store and administer opioid treatment medications on-site.)

Check also that the facility is licensed and accredited by its state healthcare governing body or agencies. For instance, in Florida, the Agency for Healthcare Accreditation, Florida Division of Substance Use and Mental Health (DCF), and the Department of Health enact rigorous quality-of-care standards that healthcare providers must abide by if they are to receive licensure and/or certification. 

3. Look for a strong multidisciplinary program that employs a “collaborative care model” to inpatient care. Research by Harvard’s Kennedy Forum has demonstrated that the integration of medical, psychiatric, clinical, and holistic interventions is associated with better treatment outcomes. Well-integrated care can only happen when a multidisciplinary team of professionals (doctors, psychiatrists, therapists, and other care professionals) is in place to meet regularly to discuss, evaluate and tweak inpatient plans of care.

When vetting any facility, ask them if they have a multidisciplinary team and practice integrated/ collaborative care. Any treatment program worth attending should be utilizing this approach.

A strong multidisciplinary program will also employ science-based interventions, such as neuro therapies and evidence-based psychotherapies. For example, neuro-rehabilitative services and psychological testing can better customize individualized plans of care and provide an empirical measure of patients’ progress in treatment. These neuro therapies should be administered alongside group and individual clinical interventions that need to be well-worth your time (as in proven to boost recovery outcomes). 

On that note, inquire about what group and individual therapies and treatments will be employed in the program and the credentials of the therapists who will administer them. For example, if a program offers EMDR therapy (“Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing”) for PTSD and PTSD-related substance use disorders, then any therapist(s) administering EMDR should be trained and certified in it.

4. Ask for an in-person tour of the facility. If they refuse your request, you can remove them from your list of prospective providers. Any response that is less than totally transparent is a warning sign. If a prospective facility is out of town, you can still ask them for an in-person tour and gauge their response. (You don’t have to tell them where you’re calling from.) 

5. Find out how long the rehab facility has been in operation. Some facilities, such as the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation, have been providing inpatient treatment for decades and are household names. Other rehab providers are real newcomers on the block. As a general rule of thumb, look for a facility that has been in operation for at least 15 years or more, because that suggests stability, healthy business practices, and experience in the field. 

6. Check the provider’s Better Business Bureau (BBB) rating. A BBB rating can help you evaluate things like transparent business practices and the number of customer complaints filed, as well as whether these complaints were resolved according to the customers’ satisfaction. 

7. Read online and Yelp reviews but don’t rely on these exclusively, either. Instead, seek out news stories and articles related to the facility. Reviews are worth reading, but news stories are a more objective source when you’re trying to gauge the quality of an inpatient provider and their treatment programs. For instance, if a provider makes the news for its participation in a community service event, that is a positive mark in its favor. Of course, the opposite can also be true: If a prospective rehab provider has made state or national news because of its questionable business practices, (as was the case in last month’s NPR story), you’ll be doing yourself a big favor by eliminating them from your list of prospective inpatient programs.

8. Check out the provider’s website. Photos of the facility, such as a Google 360 tour, help to confirm the transparency of the organization, as do online photos and credentials of the staff. (If there isn’t an abundance of licensed and credentialed staff, be wary.) Look for any awards and recognitions. Check out the facility’s service offerings. 

9. Be wary of any facility that offers incentives to come to treatment. Red flags to watch out for: offers to waive routine co-payments, deductibles and out-of-pocket costs.

10. Find out whether the facility has a compliance program and quality assurance and risk management department. This can be a good way to evaluate a prospective provider’s compliance with healthcare regulations and their commitment to best practices and ethical and high-quality care. 



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Ex-Husband Changed the Kids’ School Behind My Back

From a woman in the U.S.: She and he have a 50/50 custody agreement for the kids.  They are to agree with each other on important issues.  They’ve been divorced about 2 years. Then both moved across town to the same district but were zoned for different schools. Behind her back he enrolled them in his schools first.  All of the schools are new to them. Would it be too traumatic for the kids 11 and 8 to move to her new schools if it takes up to 2 months to get this changed?

This is too complicated to give you a simple “yes or no” answer. It’s true that it is early in the school year so academics probably would not be affected by a move. But how the children would respond to being moved depends on the schools and depends on the kids’ personalities and ability to adapt to change.

If the kids’ have settled in at their current school and the teachers and curriculum seem fine, then it’s important to look at who benefits from changing them. Is it in the kids’ best interests? Or is the issue really the fight between you and their father?

Clearly, it was unwise and probably illegal for him to change their school without consulting you. It sets a bad precedent and it means that a fight between the grown-ups is being visited on the children. It may indicate that no decision is a final decision if he doesn’t like it. Then what? You shouldn’t live with that tension. Your kids will be caught between the two of you if you can’t make cooperative decisions that stick. The result is that what starts as a legal matter expands into a psychological one.

I think you need to start with a lawyer or mediator to make sure such things never happen again. If it is clear that the kids’ educations will be better served at the original school, then talk to the school guidance counselors about when and how best to make the change.

I wish you well.

Dr. Marie

 



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On Parenting & Picking Your Battles Wisely

The best child rearing advice someone ever gave me was “pick your battles.” This wisdom came to me from my mother-in-law when our son was a toddler.

What does this mean?

In a nutshell, parenting consists of dealing with a steady stream of conflicts. There’s a lot of fun thrown into the mix, but problems arise constantly in the world of bringing up a child. For instance, a kid might be having difficulty in school — in ALL his classes. When a parent picks his battles, he focuses on one class a night, instead of trying to cram the information from all the classes in question into the child’s head.  

Or say it is morning, before school, and your child hasn’t done his homework from the night before. But he also has to shower and walk the dog before he goes to school. You, as a parent, might encourage your child to do his homework and go into school a little untidy that day, as well as skip walking the pooch; Fido will be fine for a day while your son attends classes, and he can walk the dog when he gets home. In both cases above, a parent has “picked his battles.”

What are the benefits of following this philosophy?

  1. Doing this prevents both the parent and child becoming overwhelmed. In short, if you try to tackle EVERY problem that comes up, it’s counterproductive, and there may just not be enough hours in the day. Things might be done sloppily; the child might have to redo them. You’ll be frustrated, and your kid will boil over. Not a pretty picture.
  2. This technique helps you prioritize your issues. When you have a hierarchy of what needs done, things make more sense. You’ll want to tackle problems when you can sort out which ones are the most important and which ones aren’t so crucial.
  3. You as a parent will be less of a nag; consequently, your child will like you more. Sad but true. Does anyone like a nag?Love, maybe, but like, I don’t think so.
  4. You will be a more effective parent and less like Chicken Little screaming, “The sky is falling.” If kids are nitpicked, they tune out. By choosing your battles, you get their attention every time.
  5. This method teaches your children to think for themselves. If you’re always trying to solve battles, what does that leave for the child to do? Picking your battles gives your kid a chance to “fill in his own blanks” or begin to solve his own problems.
  6. There are some things that are just not that important. Does it really matter if your kid rips the jagged edge off the paper before he turns in a handwritten report?
  7. If you are modest in what your child needs to accomplish, he will have more free time, and it is in this free time that the child has time to play and relax. In this day and age of rushing around and overscheduling, a kid needs down time. Reducing stress is of grave importance today.
  8. Rome wasn’t built in a day. This is a cliché, but it rings true in a discussion of picking your battles. Hygiene is important to a child, but before you can teach him to bathe himself, first you need to instruct the very young child on how to wash his hands. By starting slowly, you can build on good habits that will last a lifetime.

So, are there any downsides to this philosophy? Sure. You can pick the wrong battle and find this out later when your strategy backfires; consequently, parents beware. Judge wisely. This battle-picking philosophy isn’t perfect, but it’s darn good.

When I’m overwhelmed with childrearing problems and the sky does indeed seem to be falling, I say this to myself: “Pick your battles.” 

This mantra works. Again, I have my mother-in-law to thank for this advice. She raised two children and they turned out wonderfully. In fact, I married one of them.



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Sound Advice for When You’re Feeling Useless

My friend is in the hospital, too sick for any food or flowers I might bring. Too sick for songs or stories. Too sick for silly nostalgia: “Remember our sailing lesson?” sounds random and rude.

Right now it all comes down to cells and drugs and doctoring. Unable to provide those, I feel useless.

Feeling useless — worse yet, telling you I do — makes me feel even more useless: not just basically useless as in being neither a magician nor a physician but now also a whiny baby making everything all about me.

Feeling useless is an under-discussed form of suffering which, I think, drives depression. It measures, like calipers, the distance between whom and what and how and where we are and whom and what and how and where we would be, could be, should be if we were smarter, stronger, richer and otherwise superior. And/or if we were best pals with a deity, if we were omniscient and omnipotent.

That span between reality and possibility can poison every circumstance. However healthy and happy we and our loved ones are, surely somewhere more health and happiness exist.

Against the hard rock of serious illness and such crises, would-haves-should-haves seem unbearable.

As surgeons study charts whose symbols might as well be runes while citing malfunctions in body parts we never even knew existed, every word we say sounds cringey, clanging, clownish. As familiar faces twist in pain or gaze uncomprehendingly at us, we realize that however much we love them, however fiercely we want to fix them, we cannot.

And we feel useless.

Lobsters never do.

Bees, cheetahs, squid —

However little we know about feline and invertebrate psychology, we can fairly safely assume that members of such species never balk while stalking, spawning, feeding and/or fleeing to wonder Why do this? What’s the use?

That existential sense of impotence — that devastating, isolating frustration and shame — never assails them.

Moths and wolves cannot afford to pause during their daily regimens to wonder whether this or that activity is worthwhile, whether it might aid themselves or others or enhance the greater good.

No species but ours can afford such luxury.

Our relatively huge and complex human brains can pause at will to ponder a shining array of options anytime during daily regimens based mainly on preference and not tiny, mandatory circuits of survival strategies.

Millennia of trial and error, courage and invention liberated Homo sapiens from acting on sheer instinct as most species must. We inhabit a wonderland where relatively little is required of us.

We can do almost nothing, yet survive.

But most of us elect to not do nothing.

It is in the choosing, in assessing what we can or cannot, should or should not do at any given moment—basking in this dazzling evolutionary luxury — that we can become our worst tyrants and tormentors.

Some of us were raised to doubt our every word and action, shamed and scared into regretting all we did—yet trained to believe that we must always perform, forever prove ourselves, that just existing is never enough.

Some people suffer from what researchers call “hero syndrome,” sustaining their self-esteem by seeking every opportunity to stage apparent rescues.

What do you think you should do, say or be right now — to whom, and why? Given the realistic range of possibilities, taking a hint from The Serenity Prayer, let’s learn to discern what we cannot change from what we can.

Within that downscaled spectrum of The Possible, can we try to remember that we are neither gods nor machines but only human—and not only human but specific individuals bearing specific histories and scars and gifts?

How to access, accept and/or apply those gifts without drowning in self-recrimination, fear and doubt? Start small: by opening a door, say. Or whispering praise. At any given moment, it might be the perfect thing.

When we feel useless, we wish we could be instead brilliant and brawny, angelic and fierce, valiantly taking action. But inaction — or what looks like it — is often useful, too.

Choosing inaction is an action. And it can be hard and brave because inaction will not let us look heroic. Sometimes our best power is the realization that what makes us useful is just sitting there.

Silence. Waiting. Watching. Companionship.

Letting them sleep.

This post courtesy of Spirituality & Health.



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Day #44 : Functions of One Random Variable Example Part 1 – 365 DoA

Well maybe yesterday was confusing, maybe it wasn't. In any case, today should clarify some things for you if you are confused and should make things more clear if you are not. Today we are going to go over a quick example of what a function involving one random variable looks like. Now you may notice I keep saying one, that's because you can technically have as many variables as you want, but since this is fairy complex stuff, let's just stick with the one for now.

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5 Signs Of Vitamin D Deficiency

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I’ve Never Been Able to Connect with Someone

Ever since i was young, i’ve been a very kept to myself person I’ve never really let a lot of people into my mind to let them know what i’m thinking. I suppose it was a way of defending myself, although i’m not sure as to what. My father passed away 3 years ago, i was 15. It was a very long medical issue, he had been sick for a while. I suppose in a way this didn’t help, but i was already afraid of commitment before and i had a pretty good relationship with him. However, me and my mom fight a lot and we have ever since i was little. It seems nothing i do is good enough for her, but i suppose many people think that. I have never been able to keep a serious relationship. Even friendships, i have them for a while but i feel uncomfortable at times when people try to get close to me i guess. But, i do have certain friends that i cherish and who have been with me through the rough times in my life. I’ve never had a serious relationship, i’ve never been able to commit to someone who wants me and the best for me, however i tend to lean towards those who don’t want me, and who don’t exactly care for my wellbeing. I can find a nice guy, but i’ll start to pull away from him as soon as it starts getting serious, without even meaning to. I want to find love. Why do you think i can’t show anyone my heart? Why can’t i love anyone? Does it have to do with how i feel towards myself? Does it have to do with my parents?

I hope you can help me with some answers
i’m not sure where else i can turn to
thank you

I must start by stating the obvious which is that it’s difficult to answer your questions without having met you and gathered specific information about your life. It’s important to keep that caveat in mind.

It’s not clear to me that anything is wrong. Undoubtably you’re struggling but that doesn’t necessarily mean that you are the problem. You’re only 20 years old. You’re still very young. It’s common to experience the type of struggles you have described at your age. The ability to develop healthy relationships can be a challenging task. It’s a struggle that many people face, especially at your age.

You might be guilty of exaggeration when you write: “I’ve never been able to connect with someone.” Using words like “never” invokes a certain wholesale characterization that may not be entirely accurate. If we were to examine your relationships, an objective source, such as a therapist, might characterize some of them as being close or deep. They may even describe it as a connection.

Much of this issue, and how you characterize it, depends upon your definition of certain words. What is your definition of “connect?” What exactly do you mean by that phrase? How do you understand the way in which people are “supposed to” connect and how do you define “serious relationship?”

You mentioned that you have friends whom you “cherish” but it appears as though you do not characterize those relationships as being serious or as evidence of your ability to connect with others. Again, it would be helpful to know how you define a serious relationship. If we were to ask those friends whom you cherish, if they considered your relationship to be serious, they may say, yes.

In addition, to cherish someone is to protect and to care for them lovingly. You asked in your letter “why can’t I love anyone?” If you cherish them, then, by definition, you do love them. Thus, it would appear as though you “can show someone your heart” and you “can love” another person or other people.

It’s possible that you are making assumptions about the way you think relationships are supposed to be and then judging yourself against those assumptions. If your assumptions are wrong, then your conclusions are also wrong.

Developmentally, according to Eric Erickson, being able to connect intimately with others is a task expected to occur between the ages of 18 and 40 years old. The stage is called intimacy versus isolation. According to Erikson, this is a time when individuals are focused on forming more serious and loving relationships. Perhaps you are struggling with that task. That’s fairly normal for people at your developmental stage.

If you’re struggling, it’s wise to consult a mental health professional. Counseling is the ideal place to deal with these types of issues. Few things are more important than the ability to develop healthy and happy relationships with others in our lives.

Hopefully, you’ll consider consulting a therapist. It could help you immensely. Please take care.

Dr. Kristina Randle



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Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience

I want to point the subset of MindBlog readers interested in brain-behavior correlations to the journal “Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience,” particularly to the June 2019 issue. Most of the articles in this issue are open source, and a scan of the article abstracts gives a good sense of the kind of work being done in this field to identify correlations between behaviors and brain activities in different brain areas. Such work gives us an idea of where to focus our attention when extreme behaviors are at issue, such as (in the first article) being willing to fight and die for a cause. Another interesting article suggests that the medial prefrontal cortex may play a role in maintaining a positively biased self-concept.


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Tuesday, 1 October 2019

Day #43 : Introduction to Functions of One Random Variable – 365 DoA

Now that we've looked at conditional probabilities we can talk about other things we can do with random variables. If you've been keeping up with us so far, then this shouldn't be too crazy of an idea, really all we are going to do today is take a random variable and transform it somehow. Interested? Let's go!

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How & Why Somatic Experiencing Works

Last week I received a call from a potential client, typical of the ones I receive from those seeking help after spending years in and out of talk therapy yet still finding themselves anxious, depressed, or dealing with maladaptive behaviors such as addiction, gambling, or eating disorders. “Why will this treatment be different from what I’ve had in the past?” asked the caller. 

The short answer: because it will likely be the first time you bring your body into the healing process. 

Our bodies hold memories and imprints of our past experiences. The trauma at the root of our anxiety, depression, and maladaptive behaviors can’t be resolved without our body finding a way to release these memories and imprints. Sustained healing only happens when our nervous system regains equilibrium. Somatic Experiencing (SE) helps us move beyond the cognitive process of understanding our trauma. It’s a process that reprograms the body’s primitive survival instincts, allowing one to feel a greater sense of connection, safety, and ease in one’s body. 

What Is “Trauma Brain”?

To understand why SE is such an effective treatment for trauma, let’s begin by exploring a new way of looking at trauma. 

When we think about trauma in our lives, we often refer to an event: a burglary, the unexpected death of a parent, an accident that left us injured. But Peter Levine, Ph.D., the founder of SE, has a different perspective. He maintains that trauma is not an event, but the energy that gets locked in your body around real or perceived threat. 

The extent to which a person experiences trauma is directly related to their ability to restore a sense of safety in the aftermath of the threatening event. If they’re unable to effectively do that, their nervous system gets stuck in the survival states of fight, flight, or freeze. 

These survival states are only useful for acute states of threat. When an individual gets stuck in a trauma reaction because they cannot restore their sense of safety, the individual will continually sense danger when danger is not present, or completely shut down and lose capacity to live in the present. 

Think about your own experiences, have you ever found yourself over- or underreacting to a situation for no obvious reason? This is often due to the unresolved trauma from the past that is locked in your nervous system.

To illustrate this, let’s think of our brains always acting in two ways: “survival brain” or “safe brain.” In a safe brain state, we are open to learning new information and can see the big picture of a situation. We feel calm, peaceful, curious, and unafraid of making mistakes. 

When the survival brain is turned on, we are hyper-focused, we feel a sense of threat and cannot tolerate ambiguity. Fear dominates our decision-making skills, and we often lose our sense of competence. The longer survival brain stays on, the harder it is to turn it off. 

Safe brain is expansive and life feels vital and joyful. Survival brain creates misperception, ambiguity, and threat. The better we can manage our stress reaction, the easier we can keep out of survival brain. This takes time and effort and requires that we develop a tolerance of uncomfortable sensation in the body. If we are unable to tolerate the uncomfortable sensations, we try to numb them or distract ourselves from them with maladaptive behaviors. By growing our ability to tolerate discomfort, we gain the capacity to move through our challenges and the knowledge that we can safely come through the other side of a difficult experience. 

Why Somatic Experiencing Is Different

When trauma strikes, the nervous system loses its ability to maintain a state of balance. The trapped energy from the traumatic experience causes the nervous system to rush to a state of fight, flight, or freeze — the “over” or “underreaction” that we discussed earlier. SE works to help bring the nervous system back on line by helping the individual restore their sense of safety. This can only happen when the body has a “biological completion” and the trauma energy has the opportunity to reintegrate back into the body. 

SE uses a clinical map to access the physiological states of survival known as fight, flight, and freeze and helps release the self-protective and defensive responses we hold in our body. When an event happens too fast and we do not have the time or ability for self-protection or defense, this survival energy gets stuck in our body as an incomplete biological reaction. This stuck energy is what causes trauma symptoms. 

In this way, humans are no different than animals in the wild. When an animal has been under threat they will reset their nervous system by shaking off the trauma. This shaking is a “biological completion” for the animal that allows its nervous system to restore its sense of well-being.

Often in talk therapy, an individual continues to relive the story of the past experience. And while it is important for the story to be heard, the retelling of it alone does not enable the body to create a new and more empowered relationship with the past experience. 

SE is different. SE includes talking, but the talking is used to track body sensation and meaning attached to experiences, rather than bring the individual back into the event of the trauma. When we bring the body into the therapy process and facilitate a way for the individual to physically move through the experience with a sense of safety, the relationship to the experience changes and the stuck energy will discharge.

This all sounds well and good, but how does it actually happen? 

Sensation, Imagery, Behavior, Affect and Meaning (SIBAM)

An SE practitioner helps the client navigate through traumatic sensations using the framework of SIBAM (Sensation, Imagery, Behavior, Affect and Meaning) to incorporate the body and its experience into the process. 

Unlike most therapy modalities which are considered “top down,” meaning they use our highest form of cognition, SE begins with a “bottom up” approach of sensorimotor processing aimed at guiding the client through the most primitive to the most complex brain systems. The therapist begins by guiding the client to track sensation and movements, helping a patient develop a felt sense of his internal states of tension, relaxation and respiration cycles. This is a powerful mechanism to regulate the autonomic nervous system. 

Cultivating the awareness of these sensations is the foundation of healing the psychological effects of trauma because it allows us to tolerate and complete the physiological impulses that are trapped in the body. For example: if a patient is experiencing intense sensation or tension in their neck, the therapist may ask the patient to observe the tension but also pay attention to other parts of the body that feel more neutral. Through this process, the patient learns to tolerate the experience and begins to develop a sense of being in charge of their physiology. The patient gains confidence and the capacity to feel sensation and emotions without a sense of overwhelm. Just like the animal in the wild, the SE patient will feel a desire to discharge the traumatic energy through shaking, tears or intense heat from the body. 

A client name Pam who came to see me several years after having a stroke. Pam’s nervous system was very activated, especially when she began to tell me about the stroke. Her narrative became fragmented, and her sentences began to fall apart. Her eyes widened; she looked like a deer in headlights. Pam was not safe in her body and used the story of the events before and after the stroke to avoid being with the experience. When I was able to slow Pam down and build a sense of safety between us, we began to move through the events of the stroke in a more cohesive and organized manner. Through the use of SIBAM, Pam began to shake and tremble and discharge the energy that was remaining in her body. Even more interesting was that the shaking happened on the right side of her body and arm, where she had been impacted by the stroke. This was the biological completion of the unresolved trauma from her stroke; soon she felt a greater sense of overall safety throughout her life. 

Leaving the Past Where It Belongs

While the nervous system is designed to be self-regulating, it has its limitations around trauma. Unresolved trauma, especially when trauma is chronic and accumulated, can lead to more extensive mental and physical health symptoms. The long term effect of SE treatment is a restored sense of healthy functioning, which includes reduction in maladaptive coping skills, resolved sleep issues, and mood stabilization — to name a few. When the body gains the capacity to self-regulate, it restores its sense of safety and balance. In turn, stress hormones lower and the body can produce more “feel good” hormones such as serotonin and oxytocin.

As an SE practitioner, I have the privilege of helping individuals restore their sense of safety and gaining a new lease on life. I witness clients experience a renewed sense of safety and ability to experience a more joyful and connected life filled with deep, meaningful relationships. I see incredible openings of creativity and productivity, all of which are possible when one is able to change their relationship with their traumas and leave them in the past where they belong. 



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How do I help my friend who is in denial about her eating disorder?

My friend has been starving herself and eating only around 500 calories a day at most for the past few weeks. She only eats a few crackers and when she eats more she makes herself throw up. She refuses to accept that she has an issue although she hasn’t had her period in 3 months, she feels faint, dizzy at random times,  and tired ALL the time. No matter how much we try to tell her she has to see a professional, she thinks she doesn’t need to. We can’t tell her parents either because they are a part of the problem and it’d make the situation worse. She’s not fat either but she’s adamant that she is. How do we help her and convince her to see a doctor?

You are right. Your friend is showing symptoms of a serious eating disorder. Although what you are describing looks like anorexia, I don’t have enough information to label it. But the label really doesn’t matter. What she has in common with those who are diagnosed is her unrealistic assessment of her body, her unwillingness to feed herself, and her exhaustion. The fact that she is now missing her period suggests to me that this has been going on much longer than the last few weeks.

Your friend is engaging in what could be life-threatening behavior. It’s already threatening her health. I truly wish there was a way to convince someone who doesn’t want to be convinced. Generally, arguing, debating, even presenting them with facts, doesn’t work. It’s not likely that showing her my response will help either, but it’s worth a try. I hope she will seek help knowing that I agree with you.

If not, I suggest you tell her that as much as you care for her, you are not equipped to help her. You could tell her if she won’t seek help herself, out of caring for her, you will be forced to let someone know who can help.

Your friend’s secret is not a secret you should keep. When people endanger their own life (or the lives of others), confidentiality rules are no longer relevant. If she gets drastically ill or dies, I don’t think you can or should have to live with the fact that you knew she was in danger and did nothing.

I’m sorry you don’t think her parents would be helpful. If that’s so, they probably won’t listen to you, a teen-aged friend of their daughter.

Your other option besides talking to her parents then, is to see your school’s nurse or a teacher you trust to clue them in. Her parents might listen to another adult, both because they respect adults more and, possibly, because they wouldn’t want the school to think they were not taking their daughter’s well-being seriously.

I’m very glad you wrote. Taking action could mean saving her life. No, I’m not being overly dramatic. A 2011 study that reviewed almost 50 years of researched showed that the mortality rate for people with anorexia is the highest of any mental disorder.

I wish you well,

Dr. Marie



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4 Strategies for Avoiding Burnout in College

Many students start college with great enthusiasm, but then end up feeling burnt out. According to Ryan Korstange, an assistant professor at Middlebury State University who specializes in helping students succeed when they first get to college, burnout is “a stress-related state of exhaustion and often leads to feelings of isolation, low accomplishment and even depression.” He has some tips for avoiding it.

1. Remember that learning can be very satisfying.

The first time I taught the “Introduction to Psychology” course, I told the students not to worry if they did not complete all the readings during the semester. They could finish what they missed during the summer. 

Many of them probably wondered whether they were being taught by an alien. After all, who reads textbooks after a course is over? But I was making an important point: The material, I hoped, was intrinsically interesting. I wanted the students to care about reading the book, not because it was assigned and the material would be on the tests, but because it was fascinating. 

Focusing on what is intrinsically interesting to you is its own reward, but it also has other benefits. According to Professor Korstange, it is a great way to avoid burnout. You will probably also achieve more, academically, if you find learning satisfying. 

2. Have a good sense of what you need to do over the course of the semester or quarter, and when you need to do it.

Look at the syllabus from each of your courses and figure out when your projects and assignments and tests are due. Use whatever helps you to keep track of them all, such as apps, calendars or to-do lists. That way, you can avoid the distressing experience of discovering that you have an exam and two papers due in the next four days, and you have not yet done anything to prepare. 

3. Don’t put off all studying until the last minute. 

The summer before I taught my first college course, I ordered the textbook for the course several months in advance. (That was before students could order their books online.) I wanted everything to go smoothly and didn’t want to take any chances on not having the book available to the students on time. Much to my dismay, when the class started, the books still had not arrived! I called the bookstore, and the person who answered asked me when I had scheduled the first test. I told him it was not for a few weeks. He said I shouldn’t worry, because none of the students would do the reading until a day or so before that. 

I was heartbroken to think that students would really put off the reading until the last minute. Fortunately, not all of them did. But those who did procrastinate, and then tried to master all the reading the night before the test, were making a big mistake. The best way to learn, research shows, is to spread out the time you spend studying. The students who keep up with the reading all along really do understand the material better and they do better on tests. Cramming is a much riskier strategy, and probably a lot more stressful, too. 

4. Take breaks.

When one of my colleagues was going to be considered for tenure within a few months, she was worried about whether the vote would be positive. In an effort to improve her record, she decided that until she had to hand in her materials, she would do nothing but work. No days off, no nights off, not even a movie now and then. She described her plan to her therapist, who told her, in a very tactful way, that it was a terrible idea. 

I think Professor Korstange would agree. He maintains that taking breaks regularly is an important way to manage stress. Working all the time does not increase your creativity or help you remember things better. When you lose your focus, taking a break — rather than pushing yourself to keep going — is what will get you back on track. 



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Relationship Problems

I am in a relationship with a man who has three children with three other women. We have recently had a child of our own and she has had some health issues, an airway defect which needed an operation and she has started presenting with epilepsy which she is being tested for now. My fiance’s last child before mine has severe autism, she requires a lot of attention and is becoming more difficult to manage, she requires a lot of maintenance and some days i don’t get the opportunity to interact with my daughter on the weekends she is here. I have spent a lot of time in the hospital with my daughter by myself because my fiance works away Monday to Friday and we have his three other children every weekend. Because his last daughter is so difficult to manage she can only be looked after by us and if we are not available then her mother has to find appropriate care as his mother is very sick and cannot look after her and I live away from family with him so I don’t have the support system available. My daughter was in the hospital 2 weeks ago on the weekend with my daughter and my fiance told the last mother that he wouldn’t be able to have her because he was in the hospital with my daughter. This weekend just gone by daughter was in hospital again because of her seizures but she got let out on the Saturday so we had his other daughter, this weekend she was again asked to have her daughter because my daughter was fitting bad and needed to be in hospital and he wanted to be with her otherwise I would have been on my own. The mother of his child then started to get really annoyed and make comments about how my daughter is taking priority over her child and that her child is missing out because of my daughter. I am alone all week and deal with my sick daughter by myself, I don’t get any help from anyone throughout the week so weekends are too my opportunity to get a break, but yet the daughter that she complains so much about needing a break from every weekend is the daughter who comes to my house and I have to deal with her challenging behavior. The only time I have ever asked my fiance for help is when my daughter has been in hospital. I went through a really traumatic birth and was in labor for 36 hours and had to have an emergency cesarean, the day after I spent alone in hospital because my fiance was at home with his other daughter as her mother said she shouldn’t be missing out spending time with him just because my daughter had been born. I just feel very stressed and overwhelmed with all of this! I feel like I’ve gotten the short end of the stick because of how much I have to deal with and all the issues of his other 3 children as well as the problems of my daughter. Thank you for reading. (From the UK)

I can certainly understand why you feel you have gotten the short end of the stick. It sounds like you have not felt supported, and yet have done your best to accommodate your stepchildren.

I think there are two things that might help. First, I would encourage you to have a much-needed conversation with your husband about what you may need from him. It sounds like there needs to be more coordination and joint thinking about the ongoing issues. With such pressing needs making ongoing plans for care is essential. Rather than seeing each situation as a crisis — it may be better to plan for a more organized and systematic response.

Secondly, it may be time to look into other services for help during the week. Making connections with the Epilepsy Society in your country as well as the Autism Society can give you access to resources and perhaps volunteers who could help.

I believe these two things may start to offer some ways of providing relief.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
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